I’ve always had HEAVY menstrual flow, stain stain everywhere. Sometimes I’d think I’ve prepared well till I get to where I’m going o, I will still stain before getting there. The anxiety, plus being unable to sit, sleep or eat comfortably for five to seven days every month. I always envied those who have very light flow. Although, thank God I don’t have serious cramps. I pity women who do honestly.
For sometime now I’ve been thinking of trying tampons if those would be better than pads, but I just keep buying pads instead of trying tampons. I’ve never used them so it will be quite some adjustment if I start, I really should try them sha, if only for one day just to see how it works. Menstruation is so freaking uncomfortable, and you can’t wish it away. “Ta ba nja bi ka ku ko” (if we’re fighting, it doesn’t mean I wish you dead please).
Anyway, that’s how I say lemme watch YouTube videos yesterday and I was just seeing reactions to Akah and Claire’s breastfeeding video. I say Toh, Akah dun enter. Even one YouTuber that likes saying “I’m not a feminist” was vexing on top the matter. She even said men shouldn’t have a say on what a woman does with her body. It was at that point that I knew that Akah f***ed up.
In this Madam’s case, she said she likes breastfeeding her children exclusively, but she doesn’t store breast milk because it stresses her out, and stress can stop the flow of the breast milk. She said she can’t imagine her husband insisting on storage, when she prefers to breastfeed the child directly. I think that was one of the points Claire raised, that she prefers the child take the breast milk directly for now until she has enough to start storing. She and her friend (both YouTubers) did the video together. In the friend’s case, she has had two surgeries on her right breast. She can only breastfeed with her left breast so she doesn’t breastfeed/store as much as some other women do. Sha, their point was that some women prefer to breastfeed directly, some prefer to store, while some don’t even want to breastfeed, and everyone’s preferences are valid.
Me sha, I was like sis please maintain one lane😏. Don’t be confusing us when small wind hit you. Sebi you think feminists make too much noise, why are you now angry because someone is trying to force his opinions on breastfeeding on his wife. A lot of men and even women (e.g yourself) continue to downplay women’s realities and tag those who speak up to be “witches”. Oh you didn’t know it’s national cake before? Now e dun touch you we no go hear word. Please face your anger in private and don’t stress us😏. Remember that once you start complaining, you sef dun turn feminist, and we don’t want that right?
Mothers were sha “paraing” for Akah sha. According to them, there’s a lot to consider in this breastfeeding matter. They said even the most supportive men won’t fully understand, because “na person wey wear shoe know where the shoe dey pinch am”.
Then there’s that Doctor that said it should be a deal breaker for men if a woman is not willing to breastfeed exclusively. They touched on his matter small too. Me that I’ve not born sef, I know that “ori boda yen o pe” (his head is not correct). He actually said women shouldn’t be angry about what he said, that sebi there was a time that women were saying it’s a deal breaker for them if a man leaves soap on the wall after having his bath. Uncle se e wa okay, is everything alright? What concern soap and breastfeeding forguhsake?
Even if there are women that would actually break up with someone for the singular reason of not rinsing soap off the wall, they’re maybe 0.00000001%. Now let’s even assume that some women actually break up with men solely because he leaves soap on the bathroom wall, is that the same as breastfeeding matter? What health issues are associated with rinsing soap off a wall when you finish bathing? What’s the effort required in doing that compared to breastfeeding? Orisirisi Doctors on Twitter. Twitter ehn…hmmmnnn, it has made us kuku see how we think in this country.
When I was working in a bank (and even my other 9-5 jobs), I used to pity new moms when they resume maternity leave. To be honest, three months is too short. And that’s if promotion or some serious appraisal or higher workload doesn’t happen during their maternity leave, that they have to be coming to work during the maternity leave. I know of someone who didn’t do maternity leave because she wanted to get confirmed as a full staff (not in the bank I worked though, just someone I know). She was lucky to get the promotion, some may not even get the promotion after sacrificing most of their maternity leave.
Then someone is somewhere insisting on one year supply of breast milk inside freezer. Bros, it is that your coconut head that will supply the milk o. And the funny thing is, it seems it was Akah that sent the post and wrote the caption oh. He thought he had done something there and was probably expecting to be crowned “best in husbandry”. As it turns out, the odds were in favour of Claire.
When you observe most new moms, you’ll see how stressed they are, especially having to combine work with making sure their babies are fine. I’m sure some of them must have left some breast milk for their babies, but what if it’s not enough between morning and night? Should the child starve because the mother isn’t back from work? Or should the mother resign? Is resigning a sensible decision for the family financially. What percentage of young (Nigerian) husbands can foot 100% of the family’s bills without any form of financial assistance from the wife? And for the men who foot 100% of the bills, do they also have enough money stored up for unforeseen circumstances? If they do, do the wives have access to the funds? See, let’s not start what we can’t finish o.
So a woman who does not want to breastfeed exclusively for six months is irresponsible? And they’ll still not allow the woman choose if she wants to breastfeed directly or store up. Everyone is entitled to an opinion except the person pumping out the milk. Okay o. You will see that one’s profile now, looking nice with nice bio and RTs of Christianity upandan, you will say you’ve seen better person. Just lookat that kind of thinking. Always having the most advice on issues you will never experience. Mscheew 🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
I think “Olorun atijo” (olden days god) that used to pass immediate judgement needs to start visiting some men. Once you give stupid advice on menstruation, you start menstruating. You talk too much on breastfeeding, you grow breast straight. So instead of using mouth to advise, show women how to do it bro. Show us the way sir. It’s better that way. Abi what do you think?
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